People always say that long-distance relationships don’t work. They say you can’t really date someone who lives far away as you’re not part of their daily life. But the truth is, sometimes these entanglements are hard to avoid. When you really fall in love with someone, it can be almost impossible to write them off just because they live far away.
It can happen. Long-distance relationships can work. They just take a lot of extra effort. Here are some tips for when you can’t avoid dating someone who lives far away.
Have regular “dates”
We’re pretty lucky to be living in 2016. We have Skype and FaceTime to give us face-to-face contact when we can’t be physically near the people we love. Use these tools to keep your relationship going. Make plans for regular “date nights” (even if it’s morning for you and 8pm for them). And it’s really important you don’t miss these dates. Of course, life gets busy, but your partner needs to be able to rely on you and vice versa.
Write emails or letters
Okay, so writing letters seems a bit old school but they can be cute and show you put some real effort in. However, sending an email will do. When you’re chatting over Skype or FaceTime, you’re having a conversation and can sometimes get caught up in the moment. Sending an email or letter means you have some time to catch them up on your day-to-day life. They want to know what you’ve been up to, just like you want to know how their important meeting went.
Send personalised gifts
Picking up a gift on your way to see them, like some duty free men’s cologne, is always a good idea. But sending care packages will remind them you’re thinking of them. If they’re away at university or college, send them things they miss from home.
Get to know the people in their lives
If they tell you stories about their new bestie, make an effort to ask how their friend is doing. Pay attention to the names they use and what role these people play in their lives. It’s important to be involved in your partner’s life. If you can’t be there in person to meet these new people, at least try to remember their names. Of course, you could always do a bit of Facebook stalking, just make sure not to Like a photo from three years ago.
Long-distance relationships are never easy and you have to put a lot of work into them. So, before you agree to the commitment, you have to be sure you’re willing to do everything you can to make it a success.