Family Life

It’s my wedding, back off monster-in law!

November 13, 2015

For some, there are mother in laws who have established themselves as the Steve Hofmeyr in their relationships with daughter in laws. And how do you even begin to tell dear hubby to-be that his mother is the embodiment of Cruella de Ville? There is no denying that if you didn’t know any better, you would say she is purposefully only making high carb foods so that you don’t fit into your wedding dress. Let’s not even mention her brazen eye-roll whenever you mention what you want for YOUR wedding. While you sit across from her you have already strangled her in your mind.

Meddling in your choices

“You know, dear, if I were serving this, I would keep it aside for the day after the wedding. People talk. You know what let’s just try something else instead.” You wanted easy to make, light, quick meat recipes to serve as starters, but she insists on soup. Soup in summer!

Here’s how to deal with it:

Take a deep breath. Remind yourself that it’s your special day, then sternly look her in the eye and say, no Ma, we’re going with the meat canapes. Give her a polite smile and tell her that her ideas are fantastic. Now walk away.

She insists that your wear her off-white veil

It would be a shame to hurt her feelings by not wearing her veil. Who even do veils these days? Normally, you will receive mature advice, but this time to spare you from looking like a hag, you need to do this. Fit on the veil. Pretend to love the veil. Agree to wear the veil. Then on the day of the wedding, the veil suddenly disappears! Oh no, it’s been misplaced. Sorry mom.

She’s making extreme suggestions

The sad part about her extravagant suggestions are that she won’t even be paying for them. As much as you would like to give into her demands, your budget won’t allow it and you need to stick to it. Remember, you have a honeymoon destinations to think about. Don’t waste money on things you don’t need.

Your mother in law needs to see that you are a strong person who won’t be bullied or manipulated into doing things. Show her that you love her son and that is at least the one thing that you should have in common.


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