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Why you should be a confident woman

Merriam Webster’s dictionary describes confidence as the feeling of consciousness of one’s power or of one’s reliance on one’s circumstance. The woman who’s confident is not always the most beautiful, smartest or funniest but they possess a certain energy about them. They are the go-getters, bold and fearless and you can’t help but be inspired and in awe of them. Here are a few other traits of confident woman.

Not afraid to do it alone

Some people relish at the thought of doing things alone, they are comfortable in their own skin and in their own solitude. And others, well, find it awkward and uncomfortable in doing anything alone, whether it’s going to the movies or eating breakfast. It takes a certain level of courage and self-assuredness to be able to do activities solo. Learning to do things by yourself can be empowering and boost your confidence. If you’re nervous about it, first take baby steps. Bring a magazine, book or notepad with you or earphones while you’re out at lunch. Or even bring your laptop and surf the internet shopping for bags or new panties online.

They are doers

There are two types of human beings in this world, those who wait for things to happen and those who take action. A confident woman is a doer and not a procrastinator. If you’re always waiting for the winds to be just right before you get the guts to sail off from the shoreline, then you’ll wait forever.

Comparison is the thief of joy

A confident woman doesn’t compare herself to others. She knows where her strength lies and what she is good at. She also knows what her weaknesses are and that’s okay because she does the best she can with the abilities she’s been given. Comparing yourself to another woman is useless because each person is different and has their own unique DNA code. If you always measure yourself to others then you’ll never have enough time to fulfil your own purpose.

They don’t blend into the crowd

A confident woman knows who she is and doesn’t need to fit in with the standards set by who knows who. Whether it’s through the latest fashion trends or the latest offerings of pop culture, they do their own thing. Confident woman set their own trends and march to the beat of their own drum. They’re not afraid to stand out and be who they are.

Picks herself up

A confident woman knows how to bounce from setbacks. There will be days when life throws her curveballs she doesn’t see coming and she’s able to bounce back. Life happens but it’s how we deal with situations in life that define us. Fall down seven times, get up eight times.

They do it scared

Being confident doesn’t mean you’re never afraid, but it does mean doing the thing that scares you anyway. Doing more of the things that frighten you will build your confidence and empower you. Bungee jump, travel on your own to a foreign destination, make a career change. The more you do the things that make you shake in your boots, the stronger you’ll become and the more confidence you’ll gain.

Admit mistakes and errors

It takes a strong person to admit their mistakes and admit when they have made a mess of things. And the confident woman isn’t afraid of doing so and apologising. When you admit your faults and take ownership without giving excuses, people will respect you and admire you. Strength sometimes comes in showcasing our vulnerabilities and admitting that you’re a human being too.

Stand up for people

They are able to not only to stand up for themselves but also other people as well. Martin Luther King once said the ultimate measurement of a man is not where he stands in the moments of comfort and convenience but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy. Whether you’re as feisty as the beehive protecting Beyoncé or you’re a little less aggressive, it’s important to stand up for what’s right.

They know how to say no

A confident woman knows how to say no and not apologise for doing so. When you’re not confident, you’ll people please your way through life. And you’ll end up finding yourself doing things you don’t want to do. Confident women aren’t doormats and don’t let people walk all over them. There’s a fine line between being nice and being taken advantage of. And you should know how and when to draw that line.

In life, you need to be able to develop confidence, because insecurities can hold you back and prevent you from reaching your fullest potential. No one is immune to the grips of insecurity but some women are just better at dealing with them than others. They don’t let their hang ups prevent them from achieving their goals and becoming the woman they are meant to be.